Wedding Planners

I have this habit of watching couples that have been together for decades, to see if it's someone that I might want to look to for advise on how to make a good relationship last many years. I was watching this couple last night, and realised that the wife was not happy...and it kind of jolted me, seeing as I thought the family was perfect. They weren't.

I fear for long-term relationships. I know that it takes dedication, grace, and compromise to make any relationship work. I know and understand that looking at another couple for a perfect example isn't the best idea in the world-human beings aren't perfect, and we all have bad days. My grandparents have yet to disappoint me. They are in love with each other, and have been for quite some time, and I really hope that Erich and I can be as happy as they are. My grandpa looks at my grandma with love in his eyes, and my grandma, as silly as she is, gives her love back, and is just wonderful.

It's Sunday morning, and this is the first time in a week we've gotten a chance to relax. We have been working, coming home, working upstairs, and getting back up to do it all again. Erich has been downloading music and stuff like crazy, working "late into the night" to do so. It's funny, because yesterday morning I woke up, and was folding some clothes and putting them away, and I turn around, and Erich had just woken up, and had wandered out of the room with his MP3 player in his mouth, of all places, and his headphones on...jamming out in his pajamas. Go, Erich. Go Erich Go. I shake my head at how funny he can be sometimes, and how dorky we are together. We have such bizarre inside jokes.

I have no clue what we're going to do today, or this week. Wierd Al is playing at our local fair this week, and I would really like to see him, (he's hilarious) but I don't know if I'm going to have money or time. I'm pinching every penny to make sure that I can get all I need for my wedding.

I'm kind of frustrated, Erich too, with how unsuccessful I am with making his mom happy. I was going to get a nice, pretty cake. Erich's mom thinks my whole wedding needs to be super budgeted. And I totally agree-and I am definitely budgeting to the best of my ability. But I don't want my wedding to look cheap. And to me, a sheet cake is...cheap looking. I wanted something more...cute. My idea, after speaking with a co-worker, was cupcakes. Easy clean up, and very cute. I could even get little calla lillies on each one, and each person would get their own little wedding cake.

His mom was saying it was too expensive and I should look for cheaper alternatives. *sigh*

I don't think I'm speaking out of turn here, but I love Erich's mom. She's sweet, very considerate, and thoughtful. I like her. She's great. But I don't think she understands that weddings are different today than from 30 years ago. She was content with her wedding, which she said she budgeted very much, I want mine to be a budgeted, nice event. I don't want to get married in a gym. I definitely don't want to get married at the Hitching Post, and I don't want to elope in Vegas. I want to get married in a nice chapel, in a beautiful wedding dress, with the man I love telling me I do, and all of our guests commenting on how nice everything is. I want to have a nice reception with dancing and merriment, and then Erich and I disappearing for a wonderful honeymoon.

That's what I want. And I feel I have made plenty of compromises to try and make the wedding to the best of my ability, and I appreciate all of Lori's suggestions. But, it is my wedding. And Erich and I both agree we want a nice one. So there you go. That's how it is.

Not that I'm complaining.  I think it will all turn out well, and I'm sure that Erich's mom will understand. If she doesn't-we'll cross that bridge when we come to it.

Anyways, Sunday requires I lounge and snuggle with my love. It's my favorite part of Sunday. Erich's is apparantly turning his desk into a drum set and singing Modest Mouse. Oy vey.

Stephanie